Reading the Going Medieval blog is my current addiction:

The thing about women, even those who meet […] the ideal is that we are not convenient. We are people. We aren’t energy bunnies. We can take care of the anchor, and we’re offended when you act like we can’t. We are aware of the male gaze, how it attempts to turn us into a list of attributes and strip away the “us” at our core as it does. The opinions, the flaws, the objections to profit from our own work – all of these things have no place alongside the ideal and so when they emerge they are attacked as proof of our own unworthiness, an example of how we can never really be “perfect” and why constructions are preferable.